Wealthy mom refuses to celebrate all 3 of her kid's birthdays individually, dad disagrees: 'She gets super spoiled for her birthday, Christmas and Mother's Day'

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Emmy Pratt • Senior Editor
May 2, 2024 8:00 PM EDT

When you're a kid, your birthday is the most important thing in the world. You spend months tossing and turning about the theme of your party, and once it finally arrives, you can't contain your excitement. The best thing about your childhood birthday is that the day is truly all about you, and nobody can take that away from you.

For some kids, their birthdays might feel like an extraordinary celebration of the self, but that's not the case for everyone. Some kids are twins and triplets and are forced to share everything, even a birthday! Others might have the same birthday as their non-identical/fraternal siblings; I knew a brother and sister growing up who had the same birthday three years apart! In this story, the connection is a little less close. Three siblings shared the same birth month, and although their mom approved of a combined party, she would not abide by celebrating individually on their respective birthdays. 

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    r/AmltheAsshole u/Consistent-Visit9062.1d AITA for wanting to celebrate my kids birthdays individually?
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    My wife and I have three kids, and both have very well paying careers. $300K between the both of us. Both cars are paid off, no crazy bills, and money is set aside for the future.
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    My wife does not want to celebrate their individual birthdays for three of the kids because they all happen to be within a month of each other. I'm kind of ok with having one big birthday, but I told her we should still take them out to eat on their actual birthday, do a fun dessert and gifts. She rolls her eyes at me, says I'm over the top and gets real
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    Keep in mind, she gets super spoiled for her birthday, Christmas and mother's day. I did grow up super poor, never got to celebrate birthdays or special holidays because the money was never there. I've worked super hard to have what I consider a pretty awesome life and I want to make all of my kids feel super special on their birthdays. Am I wrong for wanting to take them out to eat on their actual birthday?
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    JohnStalvern • 1d Partassipant [3] Hard NTA, but your wife sure is! Even if you didn't make her special days a big production, validating and celebrating your children as individuals is a very important thing to do as a parent, regardless of how close or far apart their birthdays are. The fact that you make plenty of money is almost immaterial to this; it's merely insult to injury because frugality can't be a reasonable excuse. If your wife still disagrees, feel free to show her these comments!
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    Lucky-Effective-1564 • 1d ...and maybe OP should stop celebrating his wife's birthday - just lump it in with another. celebration that happens to occur in the same month. What an awful woman to not want to celebrate her children as individuals. ✩ 3.1k
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    CPSue • 1d Partassipant [1] I'd go a step further. Ignore her on Mother's Day and let her experience what it's like to have your special day ignored. That one will cut right to the heart of it. 1.3k
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    Fluffy_Sheepy • 1d Enthusiast [7] If the kids only get one day and have to share it, then she should only get one day and also have to share it. No more splurging on her for Christmas, birthday, AND mother's day. She should get the exact treatment that she thinks is so fair to her children. Stingy people like her deserve to get the cheapest treatment available so they can see how they make the people around them feel, worthless. If she gets the point, good. If not, then her greed is stronger tha
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    Titan Atlas264 • 1d Partassipant [1] NTA. Unless they were born on the same date, which I guess they weren't, then they should be celebrated individually. It's basically saying to a child I don't care about you enough to through an individual party your just gonna get lumped together with your siblings. Reply 470
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    lamtheRealDill • 1d Partassipant [1] Even kids born on the same date deserve individual special treatment for their birthday. Sure I get celebrating multiple birthdays at once if you're going to some crazy expensive restaurant or if you're doing some kind of birthday party place, but birthdays are so special for kids. You don't have to throw individual huge parties but letting each kid have a special dinner of their own is the bare minimum here. NTA 299
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    C8H10N402_snob ⚫ 1d Y'all make a million dollars every 3 years and 3 kids have their months. Let them birthdays. My family had 7 in March, with 5 of those. in 9 days. We did "March birthdays" after everyone turned 18. Nineteen and up, you're in a gang. Edit: NTA Edit2: typo Reply 353
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    DarkAngel_DA • 1d Enthusiast [8] NTA. Those are your kids too so if she doesn't want to participate then take your kids out, get them gifts and make them feel individually special! She is being ridiculous. You're not wrong for wanting to give your kids every thing you never had. Way to go, DAD! 194 Reply
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    BoredofB 1d Enthusiast [6] NTA! If they are not twins or triplets, then there is no point in having one big birthday. Especially if they have varying age groups. Even some twins don't like to share a birthday party. By having a single birthday party, your wife is robbing them of their individual experiences, which I feel is unfair. You should make sure your wife has separate birthday parties for each one of them. And if she doesn't want to take the initiative then maybe you should. Reply 45
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    NTA andromache97 • 1d Professor Emeritass [80] Throwing three birthday parties all within a month of each other is understandably not really desirable or practical. One combined party + three individual smaller celebrations is perfectly reasonable. Your wife being so against it just seems kind of mean. Reply 27
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    Desperate-Laugh-7257 • 1d Partassipant [2] Info: Does she do all the planning for the birthdays? She might be feeling overwhelmed at planning three separate events. You should take over ALL the birthday arrangements. Dont make HER responsible for it. Reply 12
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